A lot of my family and friends may be confused by my FB status updates about other preemie babies or preemie topics in general so I thought I would try and shine a little light.
When I found out I was expecting Miles I was searching some stuff online and came across a Community Support board call Babycenter. There are tons of different kinds of groups here but I was just looking for one, Miles birth month board (ladies all going through the same thing at the same time relatively). So I signed up and joined August 2010 Birthclub, for the most part I just read funny posts from hormonal ladies but there was a few great posts of information that was helpful as an expecting first time mom. Then Mr Man came early and all of a sudden I wasn't a hormonal pregnant lady anymore, I could no longer relate to the giant uncomfortable belly or the middle of the night cravings. No I was in my own little worried world, completely alone and so unfamiliar with everything.
I remember the night after he was born I was up at 3 AM getting vitals checked and pumping when I stumbled across Preemie Parenting Group. These ladies without a doubt have been my saving grace through this last 10 months, some ladies had insight from past experiences some were right there going through it with me. Some came along after seeking that same comfort from me. No matter what the question was there was always a response even if it was just a "hug I know its hard" and I appreciate these responses more then anyone could know. I'm now part of the group on FB and the support just continues cause as these ladies know the preemieness doesn't just poof when they start to grow and I just see and experience so much love and support amongst these Ladies. They truly are my online family and some may not be able to grasp that but its ok, I however will be forever thankful for them.
On the Miles front he is recovering slowly but surely, he only needs to take medicine about once a day which is great from constant! But even though he can be uncomfortable from time to time he is still such a happy great little man that I love so very much.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Monday, April 11, 2011
It's Okay
First a bit of back story. When Brian and I were expecting our bean we decided not to find out the sex before he arrived, so we had to be prepared for a little boy or girl. In getting ready I told Brian that I wanted him to make the decision on whether or not we would circumcise our son if we had one, I believed he was in a better position to make such a decision. In the end we weighed all the pros and cons and choose we would Circ him.
Fast forward to our baby's early birthday and hearing "It's a boy!". Now normally this procedure is done in the hospital within days of birth or maybe the first Doctors visit, however as with ALOT of things that we had a change of plans this did as well. They wont Circ in the NICU as they don't want to cause any more distress or pain along with what these babies are already going through. They will also only Circ in office up until the baby is 29 days old, Miles was released at 25 days old but that was a Saturday and tho we saw his Pediatrician on Monday (27days) they couldn't fit us in.
So now we are referred to the Urologist, they will not do anything until he is at least 6 months adjusted so for Miles that means when he is 8 months, this is because they have to use General Anesthetic. So we just had our Pre Op last week and saw the wonderful Nurse Practitioner who gave us the run down on this not so regular Circ.
We will get called tomorrow with a time he is scheduled probably earlyish, he cant have anything but clear liquids for 4 hours prior, when we get there they will get him all checked in and give us a gown for him. When its time for his surgery the Doctor and the Anesthesiologist will come in and talk to us then I have to hand my baby to them (if he has a hard time they will give him anti Anxiety meds), they carry him back to the OR cradling him, put a little mask on him till he falls asleep then set a IV and get to work. Yay for him not feeling the poke!. This will take 1 hour then we meet him in recovery where we are NOT allowed to touch him what so ever until he wakes up and then I can cuddle my little man and feed him. He will have a week of pretty bad pain and then a month of recovery with diaper changes every hour to hour and half, lots of baths and TONS of Vaseline.
So what I have to keep telling myself is, it's okay to be nervous my baby is going "under", it's okay to be scared it's okay to feel bad. People may think oh its just a Circumcision that's nothing but its alot to me its alot to think about, to stress about, to worry about. I KNOW he will be ok, I know it, but its still OKAY to be nervous.
Fast forward to our baby's early birthday and hearing "It's a boy!". Now normally this procedure is done in the hospital within days of birth or maybe the first Doctors visit, however as with ALOT of things that we had a change of plans this did as well. They wont Circ in the NICU as they don't want to cause any more distress or pain along with what these babies are already going through. They will also only Circ in office up until the baby is 29 days old, Miles was released at 25 days old but that was a Saturday and tho we saw his Pediatrician on Monday (27days) they couldn't fit us in.
So now we are referred to the Urologist, they will not do anything until he is at least 6 months adjusted so for Miles that means when he is 8 months, this is because they have to use General Anesthetic. So we just had our Pre Op last week and saw the wonderful Nurse Practitioner who gave us the run down on this not so regular Circ.
We will get called tomorrow with a time he is scheduled probably earlyish, he cant have anything but clear liquids for 4 hours prior, when we get there they will get him all checked in and give us a gown for him. When its time for his surgery the Doctor and the Anesthesiologist will come in and talk to us then I have to hand my baby to them (if he has a hard time they will give him anti Anxiety meds), they carry him back to the OR cradling him, put a little mask on him till he falls asleep then set a IV and get to work. Yay for him not feeling the poke!. This will take 1 hour then we meet him in recovery where we are NOT allowed to touch him what so ever until he wakes up and then I can cuddle my little man and feed him. He will have a week of pretty bad pain and then a month of recovery with diaper changes every hour to hour and half, lots of baths and TONS of Vaseline.
So what I have to keep telling myself is, it's okay to be nervous my baby is going "under", it's okay to be scared it's okay to feel bad. People may think oh its just a Circumcision that's nothing but its alot to me its alot to think about, to stress about, to worry about. I KNOW he will be ok, I know it, but its still OKAY to be nervous.
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Nap Time!
Is not so much a fun time at least not for me!
So I just spent a good 30 minutes getting Miles down for his first of hopefully 2 naps today. A couple days ago I figured out that if I put Miles on his tummy to nap it will actually last longer then half an hour actually both times so far he has slept about 2 and a half hours!
Whew so he is asleep at least for a little bit, time to relax! Nope not for me! Poor little man is having some separation anxiety and will just cry and cry if I'm not in the room with him. I have got a bit creative with putting him on the Kitchen floor playing while I do dishes or sticking him in the Moby wrap while I fold laundry but unfortunately that only lasts so long as Mr Miles just wants to sit on the floor and play while mommy stays within a arms reach. (Not that I really mind!)
So Nap time = a quick swipe through the living room to pick up the toys sprawled all around, grab the ones I need to wash along with any random dishes around and head for the kitchen. This usually looks like a tornado just recently touched down in there so I through the toys in the sink filled with bottles and run the hot soapy water. Unload the dishes, load the dishes, wash the dishes that can't be loaded. Scrub the bottles while trying not to burn my hands cause I make the water that hot! Grab my Lysol wipes and go to town disinfecting all the counters, light switches and door handles. Take a breather! Grab the mop and scrub the floors, fold some laundry while it dries. Pull dinner out if needed and prepare, put the clothes away. Sit down at the PC and surf FB while I tidy up the desk............Relax..............just in time for Little man to wake up to play with mommy once again!
So while I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day to get these things done I'm SOOOOO grateful that for one I get more then 30 minutes to do this in lately and two that I get to stay home and watch Miles grow and learn and play with me, that's worth all the chores and more!
Thanks Dad for being our bread winner so I get to take care of Miles!
So I just spent a good 30 minutes getting Miles down for his first of hopefully 2 naps today. A couple days ago I figured out that if I put Miles on his tummy to nap it will actually last longer then half an hour actually both times so far he has slept about 2 and a half hours!
Whew so he is asleep at least for a little bit, time to relax! Nope not for me! Poor little man is having some separation anxiety and will just cry and cry if I'm not in the room with him. I have got a bit creative with putting him on the Kitchen floor playing while I do dishes or sticking him in the Moby wrap while I fold laundry but unfortunately that only lasts so long as Mr Miles just wants to sit on the floor and play while mommy stays within a arms reach. (Not that I really mind!)
So Nap time = a quick swipe through the living room to pick up the toys sprawled all around, grab the ones I need to wash along with any random dishes around and head for the kitchen. This usually looks like a tornado just recently touched down in there so I through the toys in the sink filled with bottles and run the hot soapy water. Unload the dishes, load the dishes, wash the dishes that can't be loaded. Scrub the bottles while trying not to burn my hands cause I make the water that hot! Grab my Lysol wipes and go to town disinfecting all the counters, light switches and door handles. Take a breather! Grab the mop and scrub the floors, fold some laundry while it dries. Pull dinner out if needed and prepare, put the clothes away. Sit down at the PC and surf FB while I tidy up the desk............Relax..............just in time for Little man to wake up to play with mommy once again!
So while I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day to get these things done I'm SOOOOO grateful that for one I get more then 30 minutes to do this in lately and two that I get to stay home and watch Miles grow and learn and play with me, that's worth all the chores and more!
Thanks Dad for being our bread winner so I get to take care of Miles!
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